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Article Credit: Bessie Stewart-Banks
Four suggestive techniques on to how to handle the toxic people in your life:
Pray for them
- As it is stated in Matthew 5:44”…But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you…” Although, the task of praying for those who despise you may be somewhat difficult, it is necessary because it propels you on the road toward developing godly character and provides you with a greater understanding of agape love. For definition purposes, agape is a love that is unconditional and is expressed without expecting anything in return.
Maintain a safe distance
- There is an old saying from my childhood that my mother would periodically tell me and my siblings and that is,” sometimes in life you will need to treat people with a long handle spoon.” The interpretation of this statement is that in life it will be necessary to maintain a safe distance from the people who have the tendency of continuously being a pestilent and offer nothing but negativity every time they are around you. Hence, maintaining a safe distance from toxic people: (1) protects you from picking up their bad habits and (2.) limits the chances of them causing you any harm; mentality, spirituality or physically.
Create clear and defined boundaries
- Clearly, convey to the toxic person or persons in your life the things that you will accept as well as those things that you will not tolerate. By creating clear and defined boundaries you are informing the person who has a level of toxicity that you value the concept of living a life peacefully free of drama and that you deserve to be treated with respect.
Eliminate them from your life
- If all else fails and based on the type of relationship you may have with the toxic person, it may be necessary to eliminate the toxic person totally from your life. Disassociation from a tortuous type of relationship with a toxic person may be your only recourse in saving yourself and maintaining your peace and sanity. In short, the provocation that respect must be given to the other person’s feelings does not outweigh your need or right to have a life filled with a level of peace, serenity, and soundness of mind.
Remember, your mental, spiritual and physical well-being in life are the most important things that you must take into consideration when dealing with toxic people.